Hello! My name is Ariel and I'm here primarily for advice on helping my husband Philip with his diabetes management. I'm not a newbie to the big D - before I had a gastric bypass in 2009 I was on a super-strict diet, took multiple meds (including Byetta), tested in an almost OCD manner and kept spreadsheets like crazy. I was very close to losing the battle though and while I was super-obese it was finally the diabetes/hypertension/fatty liver that convinced my insurance company to pay for a gastric bypass for me.
Most of the diabetes complications and anxiety went away for me, though I will always have to be careful about food (not a bad thing for someone who has emotional issues with food). All of this has made me doubly thankful for my second chance as I try to help Philip with his diabetes management. He hates to test, doesn't keep good records, refuses to inject himself with insulin (I do it), is having really serious problems with food and yeah, I'll admit, puts me in the not-so-great position of Diabetes Police. We've been together almost 2 years now and it's still a bit of a raw edge that could use a little smoothing.
I understand he's a big boy (we're both 50) but... I love him and want him to live to be a lot older than 51. He's already had an amputation (toe, gangrene), heart stents and a list of other problems that makes his insurance agent weep, I'm sure. Tthe "in sickness and in health" thing comes in to play here, or at least that's the way I look at it.
Anyway, his approach to diabetes is completely different from mine and I would like to learn from others who have gone before me into this tricky territory. It breaks my heart when he says "I feel like I let you down when I don't eat right" but then he just can't seem to stop giving in to the cookies and cakes at work, the fast food joints on the drive home, all of the food temptations that are around when I'm not.
Anyhoo, I hope to contribute to the gastric bypass and spouse type discussions, and hope everyone on board is enjoying a happy and fulfilling autumn.